Walter’s in the bath so I thought I’d get out a quick update. He’s doing good for the most part. The fits of rage are less frequent and intense. Dudette and he still struggle with boundaries and communication. After spring break this week has been tough. The amount and intensity of the abuse he can turn on will make your head spin. I have a thicker skin and have less expectations and desires of how we will be as a family so I am less bothered by this. Dudette after infertility, two lost foster babies then a long break for me to figure out how to “Abide” she’s waited a long time for this dream. A dream that frequently goes nightmare. I gave her two rules last night:
- Don’t take anything personal. This is hard and some days it’s easy and you are a rock. Other days you end up in the bedroom with door locked cause Walter wont play nice on the PS3. (Guess who? This Dude)
- Quit beating yourself up. Which relates back to the don’t take it personally.
I’m proud of her. I’ve got to find a way to support her without sounding like I’m belittling and talking down to her. It’s not easy but we know we need to work on it. We’ve said that to each other. That’s the majority of the battle right there.